{"id":1074,"date":"2015-02-02T00:11:58","date_gmt":"2015-02-02T05:11:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/?p=1074"},"modified":"2015-02-02T02:05:27","modified_gmt":"2015-02-02T07:05:27","slug":"not-letting-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/not-letting-go\/","title":{"rendered":"More Relationship Mistakes:  Not Letting Go"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Stay in the present.\u00c2\u00a0 To better enhance you relationship, focus on what is happening right now.\u00c2\u00a0 Stop bringing up the past!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/stopsign.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft  wp-image-1075\" src=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/stopsign.jpg\" alt=\"Stop Focusing on the Past -- Let Go!\" width=\"160\" height=\"160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/stopsign.jpg 2100w, https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/stopsign-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/stopsign-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/stopsign-1024x1024.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 160px) 100vw, 160px\" \/><\/a>Once you have discussed a problem and resolved it, exercise care to leave it in the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Resolve with your partner to not bring it up again.<\/p>\n<p>If it happens again, obviously, you must discuss it again. If the same problem keeps coming up over and over, this means one of two things &#8212;<br \/>\n* either it really was never resolved or<br \/>\n* one of you did not keep your prior agreement<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Strengthen Your Relationship -- Improve Communication by The Life Coach Dr.\" href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/improve-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\">Keeping agreements<\/a> is one of the most important factors in good communication. In this case you might want to try an &#8220;I&#8221; statement such as, &#8220;1 feel disrespected (disappointed, disregarded, etc.) when you don&#8217;t keep your agreements. Let&#8217;s figure out what we can do to resolve this so it doesn&#8217;t keep coming up.&#8221; If your mate is unable or unwilling to keep his\/her agreements, <a title=\"Contact the Life Coach Dr., Dr. Marlene Shiple\" href=\"http:\/\/thelifecoachdr.com\/coach\/contact\/\" target=\"_blank\">relationship counseling or coaching<\/a> would be very helpful.<\/p>\n<p>To learn more about relationship mistakes \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 and how to handle them, <a title=\"The Life Coach Dr. Relationship Magazine\" href=\"http:\/\/thelifecoachdr.com\/magazine_3.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">click here<\/a> or go to <a title=\"Relationship Satisfaction with The Life Coach Dr.\" href=\"http:\/\/thelifecoachdr.com\/magazine_3.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/thelifecoachdr.com\/magazine_3.pdf<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Stay in the present.\u00c2\u00a0 To better enhance you relationship, focus on what is happening right now.\u00c2\u00a0 Stop bringing up the past! 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