{"id":1074,"date":"2015-02-02T00:11:58","date_gmt":"2015-02-02T05:11:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/?p=1074"},"modified":"2015-02-02T02:05:27","modified_gmt":"2015-02-02T07:05:27","slug":"not-letting-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/not-letting-go\/","title":{"rendered":"More Relationship Mistakes: Not Letting Go"},"content":{"rendered":"

Stay in the present.\u00c2\u00a0 To better enhance you relationship, focus on what is happening right now.\u00c2\u00a0 Stop bringing up the past!<\/p>\n

\"Stop<\/a>Once you have discussed a problem and resolved it, exercise care to leave it in the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Resolve with your partner to not bring it up again.<\/p>\n

If it happens again, obviously, you must discuss it again. If the same problem keeps coming up over and over, this means one of two things —
\n* either it really was never resolved or
\n* one of you did not keep your prior agreement<\/p>\n

Keeping agreements<\/a> is one of the most important factors in good communication. In this case you might want to try an “I” statement such as, “1 feel disrespected (disappointed, disregarded, etc.) when you don’t keep your agreements. Let’s figure out what we can do to resolve this so it doesn’t keep coming up.” If your mate is unable or unwilling to keep his\/her agreements, relationship counseling or coaching<\/a> would be very helpful.<\/p>\n

To learn more about relationship mistakes \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 and how to handle them, click here<\/a> or go to http:\/\/thelifecoachdr.com\/magazine_3.pdf<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Stay in the present.\u00c2\u00a0 To better enhance you relationship, focus on what is happening right now.\u00c2\u00a0 Stop bringing up the past! Once you have discussed a problem and resolved it, exercise care to leave it in the past.\u00c2\u00a0 Resolve with your partner to not bring it up again. If it happens again, obviously, you must […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,11,4],"tags":[189,170,191,13,190,185,184,63,64,169,186,187,188],"class_list":["post-1074","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-healing","category-life-coaching","category-mental-healing","tag-agreement","tag-agreements","tag-coaching","tag-communication","tag-counseling","tag-let-go","tag-mistakes","tag-past","tag-present","tag-relationship","tag-release","tag-resolve","tag-resolved"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1074","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1074"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1074\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1078,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1074\/revisions\/1078"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1074"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1074"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1074"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}