{"id":1342,"date":"2017-08-06T03:12:23","date_gmt":"2017-08-06T08:12:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/?p=1342"},"modified":"2018-01-22T00:23:22","modified_gmt":"2018-01-22T05:23:22","slug":"forgiveness-choice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/forgiveness-choice\/","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness: Forgiveness Is a Choice!"},"content":{"rendered":"

The other day, I came across a quote about forgiveness.\u00c2\u00a0 I would like to share it with you —<\/p>\n

\u00e2\u20ac\u0153Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles,
\na headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives
\nyou back the laughter and the lightness in your life\u00e2\u20ac\u009d.\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0 \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Joan Lunden<\/p>\n

We all have those days when we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re exceedingly uptight — whether that manifests in clenching our teeth or feeling tense and tight inside. When this is due to holding onto resentment, there IS a solution.<\/p>\n

\"Forgiveness<\/a>However, it can<\/em> be a difficult proposition to activate that solution. Sometimes it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hard to forgive and find our way back to happiness. We feel the need to hang on to the anger and hurt, and get some sort of revenge for the wrong done to us. Yet, often, that revenge never comes because the other person has long moved on with their life.\u00c2\u00a0 Or, perhaps the revenge does not come because that other person didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t realize how much s\/he had hurt us in the first place.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, sometimes, we do get our revenge. We get a chance to lash out and hurt back. When it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s done, we end up feeling hollow inside, realizing too late that causing more pain does not cancel out the pain we received.<\/p>\n

Instead, our time and energy would be much better spent learning to forgive\u00c2\u00a0 Having done so, we stop being stuck in the anger and hurt, and are freed to move on with our life. Are you ready to give Forgiveness a go? Are you ready to get the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153laughter and the lightness in your life\u00e2\u20ac\u009d back?<\/p>\n

The Good News is that it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s something that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s very achievable.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s well within your reach. All it takes is a decision on your part to forgive. That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a pretty powerful feeling, isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t it?<\/p>\n

Forgiveness is a choice<\/em> <\/strong>you make for yourself.<\/p>\n

By making this choice, you give yourself\u00c2\u00a0 full control <\/strong>over the situation. So often, we feel like the victim when someone hurts us, or takes advantage of us. Forgiveness is the tool we can use to control to ourselves.\u00c2\u00a0 It is the tool that allows us to find happiness.\u00c2\u00a0 It is the key that frees us from a prison of resentment and anger.<\/p>\n

In a future blog post, we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll talk more about how hanging on to the anger and pain — and refusing to forgive — gives the other person a hold over us. For the present, I encourage you to recognize that Forgiveness is your choice to make. You<\/strong> hold all the cards. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not always easy, but it definitely is something you can do for yourself.<\/p>\n

To personalize the process of Forgiveness for yourself, check out our Forgiveness Journal<\/a>.\u00c2\u00a0 It was created especially with you<\/em> <\/strong>in mind and is available Right Now<\/strong> on Amazon.\u00c2\u00a0 Get it now and use it as your Personal Guide on the Path to Forgiveness!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The other day, I came across a quote about forgiveness.\u00c2\u00a0 I would like to share it with you — \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life\u00e2\u20ac\u009d.\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0 \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Joan […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,11,4,6,2],"tags":[350,370,346,41,316,178],"class_list":["post-1342","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-healing","category-life-coaching","category-mental-healing","category-spiritual-healing","category-stress-remedies","tag-anger","tag-control","tag-forgiveness","tag-happiness","tag-hurt","tag-resentment"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1342","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1342"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1342\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1431,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1342\/revisions\/1431"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1342"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1342"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1342"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}