{"id":1358,"date":"2017-08-24T03:10:28","date_gmt":"2017-08-24T08:10:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/?p=1358"},"modified":"2018-01-22T02:22:17","modified_gmt":"2018-01-22T07:22:17","slug":"3-reasons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/3-reasons\/","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness:  3 Reasons Not to Ignore Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s talk about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1979504849\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><i>forgiveness<\/i><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>To be a little more specific, let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s talk about<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What happens when you choose to ignore forgiveness?<\/li>\n<li>What happens when you just plain can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t bring yourself to forgive and move on?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Depositphotos_25539465_m-2015.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1359\" src=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Depositphotos_25539465_m-2015-300x261.jpg\" alt=\"Forgiveness Challenge the Power of Forgiveness by Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.\" width=\"275\" height=\"239\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Depositphotos_25539465_m-2015-300x261.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Depositphotos_25539465_m-2015-768x667.jpg 768w, https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/Depositphotos_25539465_m-2015.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 275px) 100vw, 275px\" \/><\/a>I get it &#8212; There are times and situations where it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hard to forgive. There are times when you just don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to forgive.\u00c2\u00a0 There are times when you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re not ready to move on. Certainly, sometimes it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s OK to feel resentful and angry for a little while &#8230; while you are getting ready to forgive.<\/p>\n<p>The important part is that you use your time to get yourself &#8212; as quickly as possible &#8212; into a state of mind where you can forgive. You <strong>don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t<\/strong> want to get stuck in a world of anger, resentment, and revenge. That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not a healthy place to be!\u00c2\u00a0 In addition, it can lead to all sorts of problems &#8212; the biggest of which is that it prevents you from moving on to a place where you can feel happy and content again.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Ignoring Forgiveness Keeps You Stuck <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s impossible to move on with your life when you are holding on to feelings of resentment. The saddest part about being stuck &#8212; when you ignore forgiveness &#8212; is that chances are good that the other person has long <!--more-->moved on.<\/p>\n<p>They aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t wasting another thought on what happened. They aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t worried or feeling bad about it. They\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve probably forgotten all about it and moved on with their life.<\/p>\n<p>You, on the other hand, are the one stuck in a bad emotional place &#8230; until you can find it in your heart to forgive. This is one of the huge reasons that\u00c2\u00a0 forgiveness is really all about you and getting yourself unstuck.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Holding On To Anger Keeps Out Happiness <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re holding on to that anger, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hard to make room for more positive feelings. I&#8217;m sure that you recognize that you can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t be happy and angry in the very same moment. Practicing forgiveness makes room in your heart to let the joy and happiness back in. Isn&#8217;t that a SUPER reason to make a serious effort to forgive?<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Refusing to Forgive May Cause Depression <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Last, but not least, when you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re stuck in that dark place for too long, you may even end up depressed. Ask yourself, &#8220;Is holding on to a grudge worth risking depression?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>While there may be other contributing factors when you find yourself depressed, finding it in your heart to forgive can be<strong> very<\/strong> helpful. It allows you to move on and lift this burden from your chest &#8230; from your shoulders &#8230; from yourself!\u00c2\u00a0\u00c2\u00a0 The freeing feeling you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll notice &#8212; once you choose to forgive &#8212; will go a long way towards helping you feel better. Before long you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll find yourself able to dig out of depression and see the light at the end of the tunnel.<\/p>\n<p>Please take this warning seriously. Ignoring forgiveness doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t hurt anyone else more than it hurts you. Do yourself a favor and do what you need to do to forgive and move on to happier times.<\/p>\n<p>To help you know what you need to do to forgive, go to Amazon.com and get our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1979504849\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Forgiveness Journal<\/a> &#8212; My Forgiveness Journal:\u00c2\u00a0 The Art of Journaling for Healing.\u00c2\u00a0 Forgiveness is such a powerful force for freedom and emotional release, you need to get on it NOW!\u00c2\u00a0 Simply go to\u00c2\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1979504849\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1979504849<\/a> and get yours <strong>today!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s talk about forgiveness. To be a little more specific, let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s talk about What happens when you choose to ignore forgiveness? What happens when you just plain can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t bring yourself to forgive and move on? I get it &#8212; There are times and situations where it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hard to forgive. There are times when you just [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,4,6,2],"tags":[142,90,346,379,378,178],"class_list":["post-1358","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-healing","category-mental-healing","category-spiritual-healing","category-stress-remedies","tag-angry","tag-depression","tag-forgiveness","tag-healthy","tag-positive-feelings","tag-resentment"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1358","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1358"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1358\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1450,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1358\/revisions\/1450"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1358"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1358"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1358"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}