{"id":1368,"date":"2017-08-31T23:39:41","date_gmt":"2017-09-01T04:39:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/?p=1368"},"modified":"2018-01-22T02:30:47","modified_gmt":"2018-01-22T07:30:47","slug":"entitlement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/entitlement\/","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness: Forgiveness, Power and Entitlement"},"content":{"rendered":"

Something interesting happens when we feel that someone has done us wrong and we choose to hold on to a grudge because of it. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not saying it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s good. In fact, it isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t, but the reaction, and the story we tell ourselves, is interesting. Here\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what usually happens:<\/p>\n

\"Forgiveness<\/a>Someone does you a wrong. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t really matter what happens, but for some reason you feel slighted and are right fully angry. That anger gives you a lot of energy. You feel in the right, and you hold on to that anger and resentment. You don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to seem like a pushover. So you hold on to the anger and pain. You think negative thoughts and in your mind, you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re the strong one. You\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re the one hurling all these angry thoughts and feelings at the other person, the one who\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s done you wrong.<\/p>\n

In reality, the only one you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re hurting with all this anger and resentment is you. And a big reason why is because you ignore forgiveness<\/i> and instead hold on to all that anger and resentment. The other person on the other hand, has moved on and is living his or her life happily.<\/p>\n

And then there\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the opposite scenario. You\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re again the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153victim\u00e2\u20ac\u009d of wrong doing. But this time you nobly decide to forgive the other person. You feel benevolent and righteous. You\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re still angry about what happened, but decide to be \u00e2\u20ac\u0153the better person\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, and forgive\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 figuring that the universe, karma, or even God will reward you for your selfless forgiveness. But in truth it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s really isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t about forgiveness and it certainly wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t a selfless act on your part. Instead you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re expecting something in return for your good behavior.<\/p>\n

Both choosing not to practice forgiveness, and granting false forgiveness can be dangerous paths to walk and they don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t really benefit you either. Both give you a false sense of power and entitlement. In one case you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re holding on to anger and pain, using it a shield, and in the other case you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re fishing for recognition and praise. Both will harm you in the long run. They keep you from practicing true forgiveness that helps you move on. The end goal with true forgiveness is to get to a point where you can get past the pain and anger and let happiness and joy back into your life. Both ignoring forgiveness and false forgiveness will keep you from reaching that point.<\/p>\n

Are you looking for a way to forgive key persons or events in your life?\u00c2\u00a0 Look no further!\u00c2\u00a0 Simply go to\u00c2\u00a0https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1979504849<\/a> and see what all the hubbub is about.\u00c2\u00a0 Get your own copy and use it to guide yourself on the Path to Forgiveness<\/a>.\u00c2\u00a0 Find out for yourself how true is the statement, “Forgiveness CAN be Yours!”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Something interesting happens when we feel that someone has done us wrong and we choose to hold on to a grudge because of it. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not saying it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s good. In fact, it isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t, but the reaction, and the story we tell ourselves, is interesting. Here\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what usually happens: Someone does you a wrong. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,11,4,311,6],"tags":[350,346,380,383,41,385,382,92,178,384,381],"class_list":["post-1368","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-healing","category-life-coaching","category-mental-healing","category-positive-thinking","category-spiritual-healing","tag-anger","tag-forgiveness","tag-grudge","tag-happily","tag-happiness","tag-harm","tag-negative-thoughts","tag-pain","tag-resentment","tag-sefess","tag-selfless"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1368","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1368"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1368\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1451,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1368\/revisions\/1451"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1368"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1368"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1368"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}