{"id":1382,"date":"2017-09-15T00:20:34","date_gmt":"2017-09-15T05:20:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/?p=1382"},"modified":"2018-01-22T02:42:11","modified_gmt":"2018-01-22T07:42:11","slug":"day9","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/day9\/","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness: Time to Take Back Control by Forgiving"},"content":{"rendered":"

It can be easy to play the victim, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t you think?<\/p>\n

It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s much easier to play the damsel in distress, or the one who was done wrong. It makes us feel righteous and allows us to hold on to our grudges. For many of us, playing the victim is our default reaction whenever something bad happens. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s easier to blame someone else<\/strong> and make it their fault, whet\"Forgiveness<\/a>her it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the truth or not.<\/p>\n

More importantly, it allows us to sit back and reaction instead of taking control and responsibility for our life and how we feel. But this victim mentality comes with a pretty heavy price tag.<\/p>\n

That price is our independence and our pursuit of happiness<\/a>. Knowing that, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t you think it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s about time you started to take back control of your feelings and your life?<\/p>\n

The first step to taking back control is forgiveness<\/i>. Forgiving someone for a wrong done to you \u00e2\u20ac\u201c be it real or imagined \u00e2\u20ac\u201c is an important first step.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean that you condone what they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve done. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean that you forget what they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve done. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean that you will love them, or even chose to interact with them going forward.<\/p>\n

What it means is that you make the decisions for yourself that it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s time to let things go so you can move on.<\/p>\n

Forgiveness is an act of taking control of your future and your destiny. It means letting go of pain and anger. It means giving up on that grudge and those feelings of getting even or even revenge.<\/p>\n

The purpose of forgiving is so you can make room for the fun, happy and excitingthings ahead. Here\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the thing:\u00c2\u00a0 You can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t choose to be happy and invite positive experiences into your life while you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re busy plotting revenge and harboring anger. You can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t take control and<\/strong> play victim at the same time.<\/p>\n

Yes, when something bad happens and someone has done you wrong it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s normal to feel angry. We might get hurt. We might feel resentful for that pain caused. But then we choose to move on.<\/p>\n

We forgive so we can move forward with our lives. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean we condone what the other person did. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean that we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re giving in or giving up.<\/p>\n

It simply means that we chose to pick up the reins and plot a better future. It means that we take control of the path we walk in life and the destiny that waits.<\/p>\n

Isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t it about time you started taking back control?<\/p>\n

If so, start by forgiving those around you for what they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve done to you. You may just be pleasantly surprised how good and empowering it feels to be the one in control again.<\/p>\n

To learn how, consider taking up the practice of Journaling<\/a>. With My Forgiveness Journal:\u00c2\u00a0 The Art of Journaling for Healing<\/em>, you are guided to use 5 different stimulus ideas to create a complete, multi-faceted experience of true Forgiveness.\u00c2\u00a0 Learn more today at\u00c2\u00a0https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1979504849<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It can be easy to play the victim, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t you think? It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s much easier to play the damsel in distress, or the one who was done wrong. It makes us feel righteous and allows us to hold on to our grudges. For many of us, playing the victim is our default reaction whenever something bad […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,11,4,6,2],"tags":[350,370,386,387,346,372,41,351,352],"class_list":["post-1382","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-healing","category-life-coaching","category-mental-healing","category-spiritual-healing","category-stress-remedies","tag-anger","tag-control","tag-distress","tag-empowering","tag-forgiveness","tag-forgiving","tag-happiness","tag-journal","tag-journaling"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1382","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1382"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1382\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1453,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1382\/revisions\/1453"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1382"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1382"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentalhealth-online.com\/mentalhealth\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1382"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}