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Aug

6

Forgiveness: Forgiveness Is a Choice!

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Spiritual Healing, Stress Remedies

The other day, I came across a quote about forgiveness.  I would like to share it with you —

“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles,
a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives
you back the laughter and the lightness in your life”.      – Joan Lunden

We all have those days when we’re exceedingly uptight — whether that manifests in clenching our teeth or feeling tense and tight inside. When this is due to holding onto resentment, there IS a solution.

Forgiveness Challenge by Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.However, it can be a difficult proposition to activate that solution. Sometimes it’s hard to forgive and find our way back to happiness. We feel the need to hang on to the anger and hurt, and get some sort of revenge for the wrong done to us. Yet, often, that revenge never comes because the other person has long moved on with their life.  Or, perhaps the revenge does not come because that other person didn’t realize how much s/he had hurt us in the first place.

On the other hand, sometimes, we do get our revenge. We get a chance to lash out and hurt back. When it’s done, we end up feeling hollow inside, realizing too late that causing more pain does not cancel out the pain we received.

Instead, our time and energy would be much better spent learning to forgive  Having done so, we stop being stuck in the anger and hurt, and are freed to move on with our life. Are you ready to give Forgiveness a go? Are you ready to get the “laughter and the lightness in your life” back?

The Good News is that it’s something that’s very achievable.  It’s well within your reach. All it takes is a decision on your part to forgive. That’s a pretty powerful feeling, isn’t it?

Forgiveness is a choice you make for yourself.

By making this choice, you give yourself  full control over the situation. So often, we feel like the victim when someone hurts us, or takes advantage of us. Forgiveness is the tool we can use to control to ourselves.  It is the tool that allows us to find happiness.  It is the key that frees us from a prison of resentment and anger.

In a future blog post, we’ll talk more about how hanging on to the anger and pain — and refusing to forgive — gives the other person a hold over us. For the present, I encourage you to recognize that Forgiveness is your choice to make. You hold all the cards. It’s not always easy, but it definitely is something you can do for yourself.

To personalize the process of Forgiveness for yourself, check out our Forgiveness Journal.  It was created especially with you in mind and is available Right Now on Amazon.  Get it now and use it as your Personal Guide on the Path to Forgiveness!

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