Jan
26
For relationship success, it is extremely important to be straight-forward and honest about who you are, what you want, and what you expect. You need to be able to let your mate know what your needs, desires, thoughts, and feelings are. Dishonesty — and lack of disclosure — is a huge mistake. For creating a healthy, long-lasting relationship, dishonesty is not OK.
Masking your desires is not being considerate. Be careful not to confuse yourself about this. Your partner cannot work with you on accomplishing your desires and sensitivity to your feelings if s/he does not know what those desires and feelings are.
One reason it is important for you to be clear and honest is that it gives both of you an opportunity to assess whether or not you are going to be a good match. You need to know this as soon as possible. Another reason it is important to be honest and clear with your partner is that people respect bold, honest, straight talk.
At the same time, exercise care not to go on and on explaining why you want what you want. Keep it light and simple.
Also, when you are not being direct and honest about your wants and needs, you can easily find that resentment and tension build up within you. It is normal for resentment to build … if you are masking, ignoring, and denying your needs.
In my experience, resentment can kill a relationship faster than any other event. So, whatever you can do to prevent resentment from building — and eroding the very fabric of your partnership — it is vital that you do.
To learn more about relationship mistakes … and how to avoid them, click here or go to http://thelifecoachdr.com/magazine_3.pdf