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Success consists of doing the common things of life uncommonly well.
— Unknown

Many people wonder about how to be successful. This quote explains what becoming successful means in simple terms.

Truly successful people have integrity, a strong worth ethic, a desire to succeed, and tenacity to keep working even when it seems that things aren’t going well. Using these principles diligently, they find ways to provide successful outcomes.

They don’t give up easily. Rather, they keep going forward — persistently, repeatedly — regardless of the number of times they are knocked back.

What do you imagine would happen if you were to adopt the following work-ethic:

• Be honest.
• Work diligently.
• Be persistent — Don’t give up.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I always act in an honest way? Do I show integrity?
2. Do I give my employer an honest day’s work for what I’m paid?
3. Am I determined to succeed and refuse to give up?

Keeping a Forgiveness journal as a helpful tool while on your Forgiveness journey. There are a lot of advantages to journaling.

If you’ve kept a diary in the past, you may be familiar with some of them. If you haven’t tried it yet, I seriously encourage you to give it a try. It can be very helpful. A journal or diary is always available to you.  It is ready to listen as you pour out your thoughts and feelings on the page.

Your journal can be fancy.  At the same time, it doesn’t have to be fancy. Chances are you already have everything you need.

You can use a notebook.  Or, you might already have an attractive journal — perhaps, one you bought years ago and never cracked the cover … or, got past making the first entry.

If you prefer, you might choose to keep a digital diary. To do so, just open a word document on your computer and start writing entries.  You could also keep a voice- or video-recording on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you journal your forgiveness journey as long as Read more

So far, in these blog posts, we’ve talked a lot about forgiving others. There’s one very important person we’ve not talked about yet – and that’s you. It’s about time we take a closer look at forgiving yourself, what it means, why it’s so difficult, and why it is important.

Forgiving yourself is often harder than forgiving anyone else. We can be extremely hard on ourselves.

We may be are our own worst critics and as a result it’s often tough to forgive ourselves. It can be hard to admit and let go of our mistakes. Yet self-forgiveness is one of the most powerful parts of self-love.

When you learn to forgive yourself your past mistakes, you aren’t just able to start moving on. You will also start to develop a deeper feeling of self-worth.

With this feeling of self-worth comes a new-found self-confidence that will serve you well in the days to come. Life can be much easier and a lot more fun when you are able to develop a good feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.

Of course all of that might be easier said than done. Forgiving yourself, as I mentioned earlier, is harder than it looks. It’s not something that comes easy to most of us. If you’re lacking in self-worth, and self-confidence, it will be even harder. The Good News is that you can get there Read more

It can be easy to play the victim, don’t you think?

It’s much easier to play the damsel in distress, or the one who was done wrong. It makes us feel righteous and allows us to hold on to our grudges. For many of us, playing the victim is our default reaction whenever something bad happens. It’s easier to blame someone else and make it their fault, whether it’s the truth or not.

More importantly, it allows us to sit back and reaction instead of taking control and responsibility for our life and how we feel. But this victim mentality comes with a pretty heavy price tag.

That price is our independence and our pursuit of happiness. Knowing that, don’t you think it’s about time you started to take back control of your feelings and your life?

The first step to taking back control is forgiveness. Forgiving someone for a wrong done to you – be it real or imagined – is an important first step.

It doesn’t mean that you condone what they’ve done. It doesn’t mean that you forget what they’ve done. It doesn’t mean that you will love them, or even chose to interact with them going forward.

What it means is that you make the decisions for yourself that it’s time Read more

I want to share a very powerful quote with you today.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

                                                                                                         ~Lewis B. Smedes

This one little quote contains the key to why forgiveness is so important to finding happiness. What you’ll find out once you start practicing forgiveness is that it is very freeing.

The strange thing is that we don’t even realize how much the pain, anger, resentment, and grudges we hold in when we ignore forgiveness hold us back. By choosing to be resentful towards the person who’s done us wrong, we create our own little prison that keeps us trapped in those negative feelings.

When we make the conscious decision to forgive and put in the work and effort it may take to reach true forgiveness, we find that we’re setting ourselves free. Looking back, it doesn’t come as that big of a surprise, does it?

One of the most common misconceptions about forgiveness is that it is always about the other person. We tend to think that when we forgive, we’re freeing the person we’re mad at. We think that they are feeling bad and hoping for our forgiveness.

While there are certainly times when that’s the case, more often than not, they don’t even realize how much they’ve hurt us. They’ve long moved on and don’t waste another thought on the matter. In the meantime, we’re sitting here, stewing, and holding on to our anger.

Because we hold on to anger and grudges, we can’t move on. We can’t get to a point where we let go of Read more

Something interesting happens when we feel that someone has done us wrong and we choose to hold on to a grudge because of it. I’m not saying it’s good. In fact, it isn’t, but the reaction, and the story we tell ourselves, is interesting. Here’s what usually happens:

Someone does you a wrong. It doesn’t really matter what happens, but for some reason you feel slighted and are right fully angry. That anger gives you a lot of energy. You feel in the right, and you hold on to that anger and resentment. You don’t want to seem like a pushover. So you hold on to the anger and pain. You think negative thoughts and in your mind, you’re the strong one. You’re the one hurling all these angry thoughts and feelings at the other person, the one who’s done you wrong.

In reality, the only one you’re hurting with all this anger and resentment is you. And a big reason why is because you ignore forgiveness and instead hold on to all that anger and resentment. The other person on the other hand, has moved on and is living his or her life happily.

And then there’s the opposite scenario. You’re again the “victim” of wrong doing. But this time you nobly decide to forgive the other person. You feel benevolent and righteous. You’re still angry about what happened, Read more

Let’s talk about forgiveness.

To be a little more specific, let’s talk about

• What happens when you choose to ignore forgiveness?
• What happens when you just plain can’t bring yourself to forgive and move on?

I get it — There are times and situations where it’s hard to forgive. There are times when you just don’t want to forgive.  There are times when you’re not ready to move on. Certainly, sometimes it’s OK to feel resentful and angry for a little while … while you are getting ready to forgive.

The important part is that you use your time to get yourself — as quickly as possible — into a state of mind where you can forgive. You don’t want to get stuck in a world of anger, resentment, and revenge. That’s not a healthy place to be!  In addition, it can lead to all sorts of problems — the biggest of which is that it prevents you from moving on to a place where you can feel happy and content again.

1. Ignoring Forgiveness Keeps You Stuck

It’s impossible to move on with your life when you are holding on to feelings of resentment. The saddest part about being stuck — when you ignore forgiveness — is that chances are good that the other person has long Read more

In yesterday’s post we briefly went over some of the negative things associated with ignoring forgiveness. Today, I want to dig a little deeper and take a look at the connection between forgiveness and depression.

There are actually two sides to this story:

1. One involves forgiving, or choosing to hold on to a grudge; and
2. the other involves feeling like you’re not forgiving.

In either case, when there is no forgiveness, the chances of either party ending up depressed are fairly high.

In other words, by choosing to not forgive, you’re not only hurting yourself, but you’re potentially putting the other party involved in a dark place as well. Several U.S. universities have done studies on forgiveness and depression — there seems to be a definite link between the two. The consensus seems to be that when we choose to hold on to grudges and feelings of resentment, we feel less connected and have less room for happiness and other positive feelings and experiences. As a result, depression can creep in. But there’s good news…

Thankfully the connection between forgiveness and Read more

The act of forgiveness is something important — something of which to strive to do more.  Not only is it a kindness, but it is also a very important act for both the person doing the forgiving and for the one receiving it. The simple process of forgiving is very freeing. It allows us to move on with our lives and strive towards happiness.

Ignoring forgiveness and holding on to

• anger
• grudges
• feelings of revenge

can keep you from moving on. The end result is that you feel stuck — trapped in your anger. Without forgiveness, it’s hard to let go and move on. Holding on to that anger takes a lot of time and energy that could be better spent on more-positive, more-fun pursuits.

Anger and resentment don’t make you a pleasant person to be around. Instead, your family and friends may slowly-but-surely withdraw adding to your feelings of resentment and helplessness. In the worst case scenario, ignoring forgiveness can lead you to a downward spiral that leads to isolation and depression. It’s important to make forgiveness a priority to make sure that it does happen. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth working towards.

Another important reason to give forgiveness serious action is that forgiving makes you a better and stronger person. It’s not easy to let go and forgive. It’s not easy to love through the pain and the hurt, but, when you manage to do so, you’ll come back out on the other side stronger than ever.

Forgiveness is an important part of the process of getting over a wrong done to you. It’s what helps you find closure and peace.

Without forgiveness, the anger and resentment will continue to eat away at you. Ignoring forgiveness, Read more

In our last post, I shared thoughts about exactly what forgiveness is and what it means. Today, I want to take a little bit of time to look at what forgiveness isn’t and what it doesn’t mean. There are a number of common misconceptions when it comes to forgiveness.   It’s important to clear some of them up before moving on with this Challenge.

If you were a little reluctant about joining us — or aren’t quite ready to give it 100% — one or more of these misconceptions may be holding you back. Let me quickly run you through them so you gain an even-better understanding of what forgiveness is and isn’t all about.

1. Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean You Excuse And Condone

When we forgive people, we do it despite knowing that what they did was wrong and possibly hurtful. It does in no way mean that we excuse and condone their behavior or that we suddenly agree with them. Far from it. Instead we decide to forgive despite what they’ve done.

Forgiveness simply means that we choose to get past it and bring closure for our own sake. Forgiveness is much more about the person doing the forgiving than it is about the one being forgiven. It helps us to not only move past what happened, but also stop feeling grief, anger, and pain about it. It’s a very freeing experience. Forgiveness is about acceptance of things we cannot change, or over which we have no control.

2. Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Giving Up

To forgive someone doesn’t mean that we’re giving up. We can still work on finding justice or continuing to work towards improving things and forgive at the same time. It simply means that we choose to let go enough that the anger, pain, and fear no longer paralyzes us.

Forgiveness is a very freeing feeling. It helps us move on with our lives.  It doesn’t mean that we’re giving in and suddenly going along with everything the other person does. In fact, we can fully forgive someone and continue to not spend time with Read more

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