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Jan

15

Positive Thinking: Boost Confidence

Filed Under Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Positive Thinking, Stress Remedies

To continue our focus to reduce negative thinking, the following technique is unbeatable!

Remember that your subconscious mind is actively working to create that which you are thinking.  Hence, by the kinds of thoughts you think, you directly create the outcomes you experience in your life.

Today’s direction targets those thoughts that you choose to think about yourself.

It is important to know.

Why is it so important?, you might ask.  It is important specifically because — if you have been giving yourself negative self-talk messages — you can Build Self-Confidence by The Life Coach Dr., Dr. Marlene ShipleCHANGE this!  And, when you do, your confidence is able to grow by leaps and bounds!

  1. Do Things that Boost Your Confidence

When it comes to the confidence you feel about your self, keeping Read more

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Dec

7

Excellence: A Mark of Diligence & Quality

Filed Under Goal Achievement, Positive Thinking

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.
— Aristotle

Excellence by Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.

Does this quote resonate within you? I find that for the majority of clients with whom I work, this quote resonates well.

Often, you are known by what you do more so than by what you say (or, you say you do!). If you are consistent in your actions — especially in your work ethic — people tend to take notice. This being the case: Don’t do a good job, do a great job!

Your consistent behavior in your job will translate to excellence, and that is what your employer will appreciate. And, when this applied consistently, it leads to a pattern that is apt to be rewarded.

Self-Reflection Questions:

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Nov

20

Success: The Elements of Success

Filed Under Goal Achievement, Mental Healing, Positive Thinking

Success consists of doing the common things of life uncommonly well.
— Unknown

Success to Achieve Your Goals & Resolutions!

Many people wonder about how to be successful. This quote explains what becoming successful means in simple terms.

Truly successful people have integrity, a strong worth ethic, a desire to succeed, and tenacity to keep working even when it seems that things aren’t going well. Using these principles diligently, they find ways to provide successful outcomes.

They don’t give up easily. Rather, they keep going forward — persistently, repeatedly — regardless of the number of times they are knocked back.

What do you imagine would happen if you were to adopt the following work-ethic:

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. Do I always act in an honest way? Do I show integrity?
  2. Do I give my employer an honest day’s work for what I’m paid?
  3. Am I determined to succeed and refuse to give up?
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Oct

15

Forgiveness Journal: Record Your Forgiveness Journey

Filed Under Communication, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Positive Thinking, Spiritual Healing, Stress Remedies

Keeping a Forgiveness journal as a helpful tool while on your Forgiveness journey. There are a lot of advantages to journaling.

Forgiveness Journal - Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.If you’ve kept a diary in the past, you may be familiar with some of them. If you haven’t tried it yet, I seriously encourage you to give it a try. It can be very helpful. A journal or diary is always available to you.  It is ready to listen as you pour out your thoughts and feelings on the page.

Your journal can be fancy.  At the same time, it doesn’t have to be fancy. Chances are you already have everything you need.

You can use a notebook.  Or, you might already have an attractive journal — perhaps, one you bought years ago and never cracked the cover … or, got past making the first entry.

If you prefer, you might choose to keep a digital diary. To do so, just open a word document on your computer and start writing entries.  You could also keep a voice- or video-recording on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you journal your forgiveness journey as long as Read more

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Oct

2

Forgiveness: Forgiving Yourself

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Spiritual Healing, Stress Remedies

So far, in these blog posts, we’ve talked a lot about forgiving others. There’s one very important person we’ve not talked about yet – and that’s you. It’s about time we take a closer look at forgiving yourself, what it means, why it’s so difficult, and why it is important.

Forgiving yourself is often harder than forgiving anyone else. We can be extremely hard on ourselves.

We may be are our own worst critics and as a result it’s often tough to forgive ourselves. It can be hard to admit and let go of our mistakes. Yet self-forgiveness is one of the most powerful parts of self-love.

When you learn to forgive yourself your past mistakes, you aren’t just able to start moving on. You will also start to develop a deeper feeling of self-worth.

With this feeling of self-worth comes a new-found self-confidence that will serve you well in the days to come. Life can be much easier and a lot more fun when you are able to develop a good feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.

Good News from The Life Coach Dr., Marlene Shiple, Ph.D.Of course all of that might be easier said than done. Forgiving yourself, as I mentioned earlier, is harder than it looks. It’s not something that comes easy to most of us. If you’re lacking in self-worth, and self-confidence, it will be even harder. The Good News is that you can get there Read more

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Sep

15

Forgiveness: Time to Take Back Control by Forgiving

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Spiritual Healing, Stress Remedies

It can be easy to play the victim, don’t you think?

It’s much easier to play the damsel in distress, or the one who was done wrong. It makes us feel righteous and allows us to hold on to our grudges. For many of us, playing the victim is our default reaction whenever something bad happens. It’s easier to blame someone else and make it their fault, whetForgiveness Challenge for Healthy Relationships by Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.her it’s the truth or not.

More importantly, it allows us to sit back and reaction instead of taking control and responsibility for our life and how we feel. But this victim mentality comes with a pretty heavy price tag.

That price is our independence and our pursuit of happiness. Knowing that, don’t you think it’s about time you started to take back control of your feelings and your life?

The first step to taking back control is forgiveness. Forgiving someone for a wrong done to you – be it real or imagined – is an important first step.

It doesn’t mean that you condone what they’ve done. It doesn’t mean that you forget what they’ve done. It doesn’t mean that you will love them, or even chose to interact with them going forward.

What it means is that you make the decisions for yourself that it’s time Read more

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Sep

5

Forgiveness: The Freeing Feeling of Forgiveness

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Spiritual Healing, Stress Remedies

I want to share a very powerful quote with you today.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

                                                                                                         ~Lewis B. Smedes

This one little quote contains the key to why forgiveness is so important to finding happiness. What you’ll find out once you start practicing forgiveness is that it is very freeing.

The strange thing is that we don’t even realize how much the pain, anger, resentment, and grudges we hold in when we ignore forgiveness hold us back. By choosing to be resentful towaForgiveness Challenge by Dr. Marlene Shiple, The Life Coach Dr.rds the person who’s done us wrong, we create our own little prison that keeps us trapped in those negative feelings.

When we make the conscious decision to forgive and put in the work and effort it may take to reach true forgiveness, we find that we’re setting ourselves free. Looking back, it doesn’t come as that big of a surprise, does it?

One of the most common misconceptions about forgiveness is that it is always about the other person. We tend to think that when we forgive, we’re freeing the person we’re mad at. We think that they are feeling bad and hoping for our forgiveness.

While there are certainly times when that’s the case, more often than not, they don’t even realize how much they’ve hurt us. They’ve long moved on and don’t waste another thought on the matter. In the meantime, we’re sitting here, stewing, and holding on to our anger.

Because we hold on to anger and grudges, we can’t move on. We can’t get to a point where we let go of Read more

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Aug

31

Forgiveness: Forgiveness, Power and Entitlement

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Positive Thinking, Spiritual Healing

Something interesting happens when we feel that someone has done us wrong and we choose to hold on to a grudge because of it. I’m not saying it’s good. In fact, it isn’t, but the reaction, and the story we tell ourselves, is interesting. Here’s what usually happens:

Forgiveness Challenge by Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.Someone does you a wrong. It doesn’t really matter what happens, but for some reason you feel slighted and are right fully angry. That anger gives you a lot of energy. You feel in the right, and you hold on to that anger and resentment. You don’t want to seem like a pushover. So you hold on to the anger and pain. You think negative thoughts and in your mind, you’re the strong one. You’re the one hurling all these angry thoughts and feelings at the other person, the one who’s done you wrong.

In reality, the only one you’re hurting with all this anger and resentment is you. And a big reason why is because you ignore forgiveness and instead hold on to all that anger and resentment. The other person on the other hand, has moved on and is living his or her life happily.

And then there’s the opposite scenario. You’re again the “victim” of wrong doing. But this time you nobly decide to forgive the other person. You feel benevolent and righteous. You’re still angry about what happened, Read more

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Aug

24

Forgiveness: 3 Reasons Not to Ignore Forgiveness

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Mental Healing, Spiritual Healing, Stress Remedies

Let’s talk about forgiveness.

To be a little more specific, let’s talk about

Forgiveness Challenge the Power of Forgiveness by Marlene Shiple, Ph.D., The Life Coach Dr.I get it — There are times and situations where it’s hard to forgive. There are times when you just don’t want to forgive.  There are times when you’re not ready to move on. Certainly, sometimes it’s OK to feel resentful and angry for a little while … while you are getting ready to forgive.

The important part is that you use your time to get yourself — as quickly as possible — into a state of mind where you can forgive. You don’t want to get stuck in a world of anger, resentment, and revenge. That’s not a healthy place to be!  In addition, it can lead to all sorts of problems — the biggest of which is that it prevents you from moving on to a place where you can feel happy and content again.

1. Ignoring Forgiveness Keeps You Stuck

It’s impossible to move on with your life when you are holding on to feelings of resentment. The saddest part about being stuck — when you ignore forgiveness — is that chances are good that the other person has long Read more

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Aug

22

Forgiveness: The Connection Between Forgiveness & Depression

Filed Under Emotional Healing, Life Coaching, Mental Healing, Positive Thinking, Spiritual Healing

In yesterday’s post we briefly went over some of the negative things associated with ignoring forgiveness. Today, I want to dig a little deeper and take a look at the connection between forgiveness and depression.

There are actually two sides to this story:

  1. One involves forgiving, or choosing to hold on to a grudge; and
  2. the other involves feeling like you’re not forgiving.

In either case, when there is no forgiveness, the chances of either party ending up depressed are fairly high.

Depression: The Life Coach Dr. to Release DepressionIn other words, by choosing to not forgive, you’re not only hurting yourself, but you’re potentially putting the other party involved in a dark place as well. Several U.S. universities have done studies on forgiveness and depression — there seems to be a definite link between the two. The consensus seems to be that when we choose to hold on to grudges and feelings of resentment, we feel less connected and have less room for happiness and other positive feelings and experiences. As a result, depression can creep in. But there’s good news…

Thankfully the connection between forgiveness and Read more

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